I spent over 2 hours writing this and looking up accurate information, so please take a minute to read if you need guidance on depression. I first started writing as a response to someone saying that anti depressiants work and people on here shouldnt be knocking it when it effectively treats something serious…. Hope you enjoy 🙂
I have been suicidal, both of my parents commited suicide, so I know how it feels to be depressed. Depressed for years. Chemacally imballanced. Yes it is a chemical imbalance… Let me explain how anti deppressants work in the first place. There are chemicals stored in neurons that effect our mood and basic human functions like wanting to eat or to be sexual. Anti depressants work by either 1 blocking a part of the neurotransmitter from eating left over serotonin so there is more floating around to be eaten properly or 2 by binding itself to something serotonin usually binds to, so it floats around as well. This process of chemical exchange is how we recall memories, know that we are seriously injured, cut the tomato perfectly, walk or write. Little messages sent in chemical form, being sent from one neuron to the next until you are doing/feeling those things. When we decide to walk without a slouch, write differently, learn to back up the truck, new neural pasages are being made with different chemicals being sent. It usually takes practice but with effort you can learn to be or do something different, and as you learn the pasageway gets more refined and easier to transmit the chemical message back to the brain. This process can also be done with unruly emotions.
Emotions, especially negative ones, are made from a slew of thoughts and situational events that bring internal justification. ex: ‘I think I’m fat, that sucks and its hard as it is. The other day I accidentally nudged this guy and he called me a fat ass. What an asshole! But I guess he was right.’ This shows internal thought ‘i think im fat’, event ‘nudged this guy and he called me a fat ass’ and justification ‘he was right’. Wheather the situation was deserving of negativity or not, this type or talking or internal talking is not ok- it always leads to anger/sadness/stress/anxiety. And believe me, I’m saying this with my past experience of my parents choosing to leave me alone to fend for myself in this world. I was justified in being depressed, justified in my suicidal thoughts, justified in hating the world that made my parents hurt like it did me. But one day I realized something… It wasnt the world doing this to me, it was ME doing this to me. Somewhere in the back of my head I told myself it was ok for me to have hate and bitterness towards the world because of my painful experiences. That’s just NOT TRUE! I’ve never taken anti depressants. Thought about it. Also thought about how sad my story was. Thought about how mad I was that others were so privilaged.
I thought about taking an instant fix thing, but I knew that anti depressants arent fully understood by doctors, either. Not to mention they dont even ensure that good chemicals are even being absorbed; they just block a part of the neuron.
I first realized that I could overcome my intense depression (that i had before my parents died… obviously it can be genetic) with MEDITATION. Meditation is the practice of focusing your mind on one thing only (guided meditation, fire, the sky, making colors with the mind). When you do it long enough your brain vibrates at a level it does when you are sleeping (yes your brain always vibrates, more for being awake, even more for alert and less for sleeping, and even less for REM sleep). So- meditating brings your awake mind to the subconscious sleep mind(where your dreams are made). Meditaion helps with anger, sadness, depression, anxiety, and more! I think it is because if we relax our thinking part of the brain (that we use when we are awake and thinking) without sleeping, we are able to somehow balance our subconscious issues that we arent fully aware of. Think of the brain as a muscle and we use it all the time for thinking and powering our bodies, and yet we know that there are all sorts of psychological issues in our subconscious that we dont really know how to grasp and deal with—- and that’s because the subconscious doesnt think or use logic like the other part of the brain! You cant think until you solve a subconscious problem! That part of the brain doesnt work that way. So back to the brain being a muscle- we exercise our thinking brain when we are awake because we are always thinking. But, we dont ever spend time awake, actively thinking of nothing! There is a whole other part of the brain we can exercise by quieting the mind (and if you dont think its an exercise, then try it- and i bet you’ll find yourself feeling like a toddler in a school chair![: ). People everywhere who give it an honest try (and dont just stop because it feels boring/silly/ too hard) will tell you and everyone that it works! Issues melt away, as you are able to deal with issues with more peace and let go of old baggage.
That is a tried and true way to help depression, starting from where depression starts; in the brain. It took a lot of experiences and thought to get progressively more sad/mad, so it wont be a miracle that will erase those thought patterns. Like loosing weight, there is no miracle pill that keeps you in optimum health while sheadding the pounds- the only way for those both to happen is to eat healthy and exercise. It may be old school, but it’s more effective than anything else, and you earn being happy by working through your issues instead of synthetically keeping yourself from being sad.
I dont mean that people who do take anti depressants are stupid at all. It’s smart to get help and people who are on them have sought help and that’s what was given to treat it. A pill is better than having nothing. However, it is like training wheels. Its fine in my book to use them while you are finding yourself, dealing with the past, and learning how to over come these emotions. BUT, they are Not Ok to use forever for depression. Just like you’d never let your kid go his whole life riding a bike with training wheels. It is an effective tool in the short term, as an aid to get you from point A (uncontrollably depressed), to point B (has tools to deal with sadness, and uses them) and THAT’S IT.
Also- not saying those of you who do use it like this is wrong. I only think it’s wrong if you know there are ways to learn how to be happy, but decide not to put in the work.
ANYWAYS- there are lots of ways to retrain your thoughts etc so please just check out some of the links ive left so you can decide for yourself. I’m a different person today I love people, I dont judge- everyone has their own path, and I own up to the responsibility of keeping my brain positive ( because i know now that its my responsibility) and I’m JUST SO HAPPY! really. 🙂
Love and light!
since i cant give links, google ‘detox brain’ and lots of things will come up
including Dr Leaf’s program that is very interesting and packed with facts (aside from the phrases about god)
drleaf dot com slash thoughtlife
google ‘negative emotions arizona advanced medicine’ and click on the first link (that isnt an ad)- it is very informative both scientifically and spiritually